Enok & Ladly

Something I didn't know.... *sob**sob*

2010-03-19T20:56:00.002+08:00

What is uterine fibroid?Fibroid is a tumour arising from the muscular wall of the womb. It is one of the most common tumours in human and is estimated to be present in about 20-30% of the women.

How do I know I have fibroids?

Depending on the size and location of the fibroids, there may or may not have any symptoms. Common complaints from fibroids are heavy periods, pain, pressure symptoms on the neighbouring when the fibroid is sizeable. Sometimes it can be associated with recurrent miscarriages and difficulty to conceive. Some of the fibroids produce no symptoms and are detected only at ultrasound or routine gynaecological examination.

What are the treatment options?

Not all fibroids need to be treated. Small fibroids that don’t cause any problems are best left alone. Those that are symptomatic, big, or growing in size need treatments.

Surgery is the mainstay of treatment, either removing the fibroids (myomectomy) or the entire womb (hysterectomy), if the condition is severe. Both of the procedures can be performed either thru the key hole techniques or videolaparoscopy, or the traditional open methods, depending on the doctors’ experience and training. Medical therapy mainly helps in controlling any heavy bleeding but is unable to shrink the fibroids permanently. Recently another treatment methods involving cutting off the blood supply of the fibroids without removing them are also available, and can be performed either laparoscopically or radiologically.

The Woman's World - The pain that can kill me!!!!

2010-03-13T15:15:00.003+08:00

What causes lower abdominal or pelvic pain?

All women feel discomfort or pain in the lower abdomen below the navel from time to time, for instance, before or during menstruation.

In many cases it can be difficult to identify the cause of the pain, but noting certain features will help you and your doctor come to a likely diagnosis.

The most common causes are a urinary disorder such as a bladder or kidney problem, a bowel problem or a condition involving the reproductive system - the uterus, Fallopian tubes and ovaries.

Type of pain arising from the urinary system

Pain from the urinary system can indicate such conditions as cystitis (inflammation of the bladder), inflammation of the collecting system of one or both kidneys (pyelonephritis), kidney stones or uncommonly tumours.

Typical symptoms of infections are a burning sensation when passing urine and a need to empty the bladder more frequently. In addition, pain travelling from the back and around to the front might suggest a kidney infection or kidney stone.

The pain associated with kidney stones may be particularly severe. The presence of blood in the urine raises the possibilities of infection, kidney or bladder stones or even a bladder or kidney tumour. Both benign and malignant tumours can first make themselves noticed in this way. The presence of blood in the urine always requires further investigation and should be reported to your doctor.

The duration of the pain will further help you and your doctor to make the correct diagnosis.

Type of pain arising from conditions of the intestines

The bowel can give rise to a wide variety of symptoms including pain.

Constipation and diarrhoea can be painful in themselves, and the change in bowel habit usually identifies the pain as coming from the bowel. Pain from the bowel is often described as colicky in nature. This means that the pain or discomfort comes in waves with little or no discomfort in between the pain.

Bloating or swelling of the lower abdomen may be present in many intestinal (bowel) conditions including irritable bowel syndrome.

The passing of fresh blood or altered blood (black motions) from the back passage should be reported to your doctor as investigation is usually necessary.

Type of pain arising from conditions of the reproductive organs

Pain might originate from the uterus (womb), Fallopian tubes or ovaries. It is usually felt in the middle of the lower abdomen, above the line of pubic hair as far up as the navel. Occasionally, the pain is more to one side, which is more typical of a pain coming from an ovary.

There might be discomfort or even pain during intercourse (called dyspareunia) felt deep within the pelvis.

Pain originating from the uterus is usually worse at the time of a woman's period (dysmenorrhoea)

Examples of conditions of the reproductive organs giving rise to pain include endometriosis, pelvic inflammatory disease, ovarian cysts, fibroids and problems related to the early stages of pregnancy such as miscarriage and ectopic pregnancy.

In any case of sudden, severe, unexplained abdominal pain your doctor should be contacted.

What will the doctor do?

Acute and sudden pains are always worrying but chronic pain can also have serious implications and a doctor should be consulted.

The doctor will ask about periods, passing of urine and bowel movements. They might also ask if there have been episodes of nausea, vomiting, or fever. If appropriate, they may ask questions concerning the person's emotional life - family, friends, work - and their sex life.

The doctor will want to examine you. This will involve feeling your abdomen and, in addition, an internal examination (vaginal,rectal or sometimes both) may be necessary.

Further investigations or treatment will be based upon the description of the pain and the findings of the doctor's examination.

Typically, a urine sample will be requested and tested for any signs of infection.

If a kidney problem is suspected than an ultrasound scan of the kidneys and bladder will be arranged.

If a problem with the womb or ovaries is suspected, swabs from the vagina looking for any infection might be performed and an ultrasound scan of the womb and ovaries is commonly performed.

If a bowel problem is suspected, a sample of the motion is often investigated for signs of infection and you may be recommended to have a telescopic examination of the bowel called an endoscopy.

The Woman's World - Breast Cancer

2010-03-13T14:18:00.003+08:00

Breast cancer symptoms vary widely — from lumps to swelling to skin changes — and many breast cancers have no obvious symptoms at all. Symptoms that are similar to those of breast cancer may be the result of non-cancerous conditions like infection or a cyst.

Breast self - exam should be part of your monthly health care routine, and you should visit your doctor if you experience breast changes. If you're over 40 or at a high risk for the disease, you should also have an annual mammogram and physical exam by a doctor. The earlier breast cancer is found and diagnosed, the better your chances of beating it. The actual process of diagnosis can take weeks and involve many different kinds of tests. Waiting for results can feel like a lifetime. The uncertainty stinks. But once you understand your own unique “big picture,” you can make better decisions. You and your doctors can formulate a treatment plan tailored just for you.

Initially, breast cancer may not cause any symptoms. A lump may be too small for you to feel or to cause any unusual changes you can notice on your own. Often, an abnormal area turns up on a screening mammogram (x-ray of the breast), which leads to further testing.

In some cases, however, the first sign of breast cancer is a new lump or mass in the breast that you or your doctor can feel. A lump that is painless, hard, and has uneven edges is more likely to be cancer. But sometimes cancers can be tender, soft, and rounded. So it's important to have anything unusual checked by your doctor.

According to the Cancer Society, any of the following unusual changes in the breast can be a symptom of breast cancer:

swelling of all or part of the breast
skin irritation or dimpling
breast pain
nipple pain or the nipple turning inward
redness, scaliness, or thickening of the nipple or breast skin
a nipple discharge other than breast milk
a lump in the underarm area

These changes also can be signs of less serious conditions that are not cancerous, such as an infection or a cyst. It’s important to get any breast changes checked out promptly by a doctor.

Managing Fears

So many women you know may have had breast cancer — friends and neighbors, coworkers, relatives. It seems as if every time you turn around, breast cancer is being talked about in the newspaper or on TV. You may be fearful of developing breast cancer for the first time or of receiving a diagnosis after a mammogram or other testing. If you’ve had breast cancer, you may be fearful of a possible recurrence or even of the possibility that breast cancer could take your life.

Even though you may have some of these fears, you are not necessarily going to get breast cancer. If you have had breast cancer before, it doesn’t mean that the cancer will recur. Still, it's normal to have concerns about a disease that you hear about and see around you relatively often — and that you may have experienced yourself or through a loved one. Don't let the discussion of fear in this section feed into your own fears.

The fear of breast cancer is unlike any other — psychologists and other experts agree on that. The fear can take many different forms, depending upon where you are in the breast cancer experience. Understand that many of your fears are shared by others. While fears are normal, they are uncomfortable to live with. We'll help you figure out how you can manage fear so you can focus on living a happy and healthy life.

Stages Of Fear After Diagnosis

Most people go through several stages of fear when they are first diagnosed. The stages, and the order in which they happen, are very similar in most people:

You just can't believe what you've heard and completely deny it.
You get angry at the doctor who told you and anyone else, such as a lab technician or nurse, who read a result to you.
You appeal to a higher power and ask over and over, “Why did this happen to me?” or “What did I do to deserve this?”
You feel resigned, as if there’s nothing you can do to help yourself.
You accept the truth, hard as it may be, and decide to fight with everything you’ve got in you.

A big part of the fear of breast cancer diagnosis is all the uncertainty and the feeling that you’ve lost control of your life — being swept away on an uncharted journey that you don’t want to take. It’s hard to imagine how anything good could happen on this particular trip.

It turns out that this isn’t necessarily so. While no one wants to be diagnosed with breast cancer, many people in treatment or finished with treatment say that the experience made them stronger and helped them to become closer to their families and friends and learn more about themselves. Being diagnosed is never easy, but once you start the process of getting the best available doctors, the best information, and the best support you can from those who love you, you are in good hands. " We all LOVE YOU Mama!!! WE are all HERE for YOU!!!"

Everlasting Frendship

2010-03-13T08:59:00.001+08:00

You mean so much to me that I cant express it with mere words,
Don't u know that or Do u?
The friendship that sails through out the years suddenly changed to different direction,
Blame it on the wind or the captain?
Which ever the answer is doesn’t change the fact that the ship is going to the wrong direction, lost in the sea of emotions.

My perpetual curiosity is killing me….
Dying to know what went wrong but your silence forced me to relent and shut the fuck up..
Maybe I am too soppy but maybe I have the right to be?
Isn't being your friend entitled to some honesty and explanation?
Or you are void of feelings and ignorant to know what a friendship means

I think the world of you and nothing could alter that…
There's something that u hide…which I don’t know what
You could lie but you could never hide…your eyes just gave you away
My love towards you went to a deeper level..
And I don’t give a hoot if it is one sided affair….isn't love is all abt giving…and not expecting something in return..
Pondering whether to tell you what I feel…
Afraid there is no tomorrow and you can never know…

I don’t care being shaft by you…
You will feel remorseful…I know that for sure…
What goes around comes around that’s what they said…I'm just waiting for that day
I could wait…I've all the time in the world….
But if its time for me to lay in the ground forever…trust me buddy….you'll feel the loss
The pinch of losing my unshakeable friendship and someone who really cares for you…something is rare to achieve in this pretentious world!

The simplicity of life

2009-12-12T14:57:00.003+08:00

Hey guys...

when asked " What do u guys do or where do u guys hang out, now that u r married?"

We paused to think.....and..... we don't really have much to comment. It's really individual i guess...

For us, what we would normally do are simple things like, going over to my MIL's place, check out if my BIL and SIL have any plans or basically just staying home , playing PS3 with hubby and Fiq. That is just wat we did this whole week... watched movie on thursday night....except for last night....

Decided to meet up Rasyidah (Kak Ngoi's Fren), as we were both bored , not knowing what to do or where to hang out. It was a simple , more of a get to know session for me and Syidah as last night was our first meet up since Abg Yea and Kak Ngoi's wedding thingy. It was fun. I enjoyed myself chit chatting with her(hoped u did too Syidah) and knowing that she is a simple person who enjoys moderate company, nothing heavy.... humph!!!! that's me too alright...Well, Ladly and Fiq joined us too, eventually!!! Thanks for the company Rasyidah... We all have fun... Its was nice getting to know u a little bit more... We will plan more of such outings in the near future okie...!

Thank you Ladly for making the effort to make this very day possible.... U always have yr ways to make every single day of our life a memorable one... Yr smile, gestures just simply blows me away.... Once again Thank you...

I'll cook chicken rice as a reward today okie...!!!

Weeks after weeks of thinking and understanding

2009-12-09T14:00:00.002+08:00

Going thru a day without having to worry or wonder abt nothing is indeed inevitable.... haih...

How i wish i was a kid again.... No need to worry abt bills, household.... etc. But god gave me a gift, something that is so right for me. Something that fits the character "ME" therefore i feel so blessed eventhough i had to go thru moments where sadness fills my eyes. I'm not saying that I'm easily contented but what god already gave me are recipes to a happier life. How much or how little of each ingredient needed be added, it's all up to me.....

Last weekend , celebrated my MIL's birthday at our place, Relatives were invited. I cooked up a spread ....

1)Nasi Lemak

2)Sambal Tumis Ikan Bilis with Telur Burung

3)Oyster Chicken

4)Homemade Garlic Bread

5)Beef Bolo

Not for getting everybody had dessert which is "Walnut Choc Loaf with Ice Cream"!!!

Everyone was happy that day, especially myself as all the food that was cooked turned out fine and most importantly edible... ahhahah! The day ends well. I sure do hope my MIL was happy with what was presented. Well that was the weekend.

The new week starts.Been doing a lot of info searching for Syafiq's Sec stream. I just want the best that suits him well. Nobody says it's gonna be easy but if we don't try, we won't know. Me and Ladly will also be taking our O's next year. Wish us luck!!!

So much to think abt and do and yet so little time left..... I wish there was more i could do.

Ladly if u read this, this is what i have to say.

My journey with you this far has been amazing. U have been there with me thru thick and thin, standing by my side, giving the strength and purpose to move on regardless what. U r a true pillar, like the one that i have always imagined to have, who never accepts failure as a setback and never take no for an answer. The endless effort to find the true definition of a "Happy Family" has always been yr motto. There is no 'what ifs' on yr thoughts. U r always certain of yr decisions regardlessly and u r a natural when it comes to fatherly values. U embrace me to fullfill my roles as a wife to u and a mother to Syafiq and our kids in the near future, whole heartedly. The way u confute everybody.... u amazed everyone!!! U stood firm and accepted that everyone has a past, a present and also most definitely a future. And u r the reason who i am today. U r my present and my future. Ladly, I could have never done it without you and i thank u for that.... Baby, u r everything that i could ask for. I wanna grow old with u as we have so many amazing and exciting stories to tell our children and our grandchildren.... Love you always....

Erny

Swimming and Soccer Game Day!!!!

2009-11-30T02:51:00.003+08:00

29th Nov 2009

Today, the boys (Syafiq & Rifqi) really had the time of their life... They had Monopoly session till late nite last night, Went for a swim in the afternoon then had a short soccer game in the evening. As for me, I had very little to do today so I'm simply enjoying the lazy day today... Me and Ladly accompanied the boys for their soccer game. Ladly joined the kids. Amazingly, the tiny tiny kids super zippy!!! They dribble the ball across the field like the FLASH!!! Hahhah! I had fun snapping photos of Ladly and the kids.

After the game, went back to rest and have din din... I cooked up a simple meal for the 3 of us.... Nasi goreng kampung with ikan bilis and smoked sausage and fried egg... Simply yet appetizing!!!

Had our fried rice while watching Liverpool vs Everton match. Score 2 - 0!!!!

Went to Kambing's house for poker session after the match.... and at this point, I'm still at Kambing's house!!! Should be leaving soon, I think? Have lots to do tomorrow... Hopefully we have ample time for all our errands tomorrow. Syafiq is a bit bored already sitting beside me, i guess that's all for now... wanna let him use the lappy!!!

*Smiles*

Eid'Mubarak

2009-11-28T04:24:00.001+08:00

Today, 27th Nov 2009, is Hari Raya Haji....

Went to mama Su's house for MAKAN!!! everyone was at Mama Su's place except for Abg Yea and Kak Ngoi, (They r in KL) and Wak Ros and Wak Tati (Haj).

Makan menu was Chicken rice and roti Qirai. Didn't do or eat much. In fact I was rather laid back , i don't know why. Mingled a bit here and there. Played Guitar Hero on Abg's Xbox set. And guess WAT!!!! Cik Faridah played too... Yenny took a photo of that hilarious moment. Will upload it soon.hahahhah! Left Mama's place at half past 7pm. Rifqi sleeping over. Soon after reaching home, Fedly came over to have his jamming session....hahahha! (Guitar Hero).

Jammed all the way till abt 3am then continued playing Fifa 10 till NOW!!!! (It's already 4:34am)Well , i guess i won't wait to find out till wat time... My eyes are already half closed, dozing off soon, So good night fellow friends and .....

Salam Eid'Mubarak.

Wassalam,

Erny

Happy moments

2009-11-25T02:20:00.001+08:00

Hi, I'm back for more updates!!!

First of all, I would like to thank Kak Ngoi and Abg Yea for spending quality time with us last Sunday... Not forgetting , Mirza and Fana was with us too.... We had din din @ Botak Jones, then went for Ice Cream @ Island of Creameries. We all went for pool session too!!! Nice huh!!! Thanks guys... We had a wonderful time together... More of such outings in future okie!!!

My Boy received his PSLE results yesterday 26th Nov 2009 .... and i became the happiest mother alive on this very day !!!! He did amazingly well....! He impressed me with his results! The results shows that with effort and time , he can achieve anything that he wants....

My could not hold back my tears of joy! I hugged him over and over again.... It's like an achievement for us as parents. He has made me see that he is all grown up and not that whiny baby boy..... I am so happy for him and i do hope he remains as hardworking when he goes to sec sch, mixing with the correct company, etc...

"Even though I know i did not show u enough love, But deep down inside, I really do love u Syafiq! U have always been my strength...."

With lots of hugs and kisses,

Love,

Mummy...

From The Beginning

2009-11-22T18:20:00.000+08:00

Thanks Kak Siti for the Kick off!!!!

Well.... As u said " the rest is history..." well not exactly true...

Every good and bad moments are still fresh our minds....

Our 1st date was at the prawning pond with the kiddo. The next date was having seafood at my favourite place, East Coast, which we practically sat totally apart from each other... But this is the very day where all the 'Magic' starts. After the meal we wanted to catch a movie but there wasn't any good ones. So, not knowing where else to go next we went to Adam Road. Got ourselves hot tea then went to MacRitche reservoir to chill. At Abt 3am, drove home. Parked the car and chatted for awhile in the car...

"I have not met someone so gentlemen for the longest time..."

He sent me home and hugged me at my door! He left me smiling as i entered my door. It was like 5 plus in the morning already. I had to shower and get ready for work, when suddenly i heard a txt message tone. It was a txt message from Shaz...!!! He doesn't have his home keys and his mom already left for work so he had to wait up for his brother to come back from his night shift. Well , I immediately volunteered to accompany 'Mr Nice Guy' till his bro is home.

While I was getting ready , he waited for me at my level's staircase. We just sat in the car and chat to past time.... And trust me.... When u r enjoying the moment, time sure passes fast!

I reached out my hand to give him the palm massage and he said......

"This feels good.... What did I do to deserve this?"

Well , I just kept silent, smiled and said" Everybody deserved to feel good at 1 point or another."...

Hahhaha! the events following that very day just brings us closer to each other from then on..... and it is till today...

Despite all the wrong decisions making eg. Keeping dogs as pets... The love we have just brought us closer and stronger. We have been thru bad times where we hardly have enough to even buy ciggies or go for outings, no joke!!!! Haih!! But there r happy times like prawning, having frens over for makan... and many more.

Come to think of it, we had all the advantage of experiencing what it's like to live under 1 roof even before we got married, and that was just part of the test. Then again, i guessed all that made us a wonderful couple together . I then slowly..., but surely, learned to open and share my feelings with my spouse as I realised it is really important to make him understand me though I'm not used to it at the beginning.

There u have it ... The Beginning of everything....

I'll be back for more updates!!!

Now going out for makan with my BIL and SIL.... Ciao!

p/s: Attached is our first photo together.... unofficial...

Our love story

2009-11-12T23:31:00.000+08:00

Hello guys! Welcome to Enok's and Ladly's virgin blog after 8 months of being blissfully married. Wonder how it all happened? Read on as Siti brings you the scoop live from Orchid Country Club....

"It's Shaz, from last night..." That was the first text msg that Enok received from Ladly the day after they met. At Butter Factory to be exact, after a wild night of partying. :)

But no, it's not what you're thinking. In fact, as paradoxical as it sounds, the two had their first deep conversation while nursing each other after having had a little too much to drink. With one being a single parent, and the other having been brought up by a single mum, they were able to relate to each other almost at hello.

The first few dates were unconventional to say the least. McDonalds with the kiddo, grocery shopping at McDonalds' etc. Not to mention the spontaneity that kept the couple hot on their heels - a dog purchase that triggered off minutes after mere revelation that "I've always wanted a dog", and of course not forgetting THE big proposal, just three weeks into their courtship!

The two were just engaging in a casual conversation when he said, "If we have enough, let's get married." Never mind the lack of diamonds, flowers and the works. As the couple puts it, they found in each other what they couldn't find in themselves and that alone, had set them off on a solid standing. Yes, of course she had to say yes, with tears of joy in her eyes. Duh!

The rest is well…history. And may this blog help them document their 8-month (and counting) journey as husband and wife.

P.S.: Now we start the blog for you already, you better start writing!

Love,
Your bro & sis